British Tennis Forum - Celebrating 20 Years!

Heartbreakingly my Mum has got a lot worse. It turns out the cancer diagnosed a week a go was a primary bowel cancer that spread to her liver. Separately, she has a non malignant brain tumour that causes the dementia symptoms. Her bowel has perforated. Nothing can be done for that or for her brain tumour, she is too weak and it is not necessary. We hope she can move to a hospice shortly although space is tight. She probably only has days or a week or so, not much more.

My dad and her have been married 62 years. He is devastated. We all are. Lets see how things progress. Coming here is familiar and an escape, albeit not quite as often right now. Im probably drinking too much tonight but I think thats deserved.

Heres to my Mum, Jean, and my Dad, Doug. And to all the folks you all love and hold dear.

So very sorry to hear this, Jon. I hope you can find a hospice space and that your Mum can be made comfortable. This board is always here for you if you need an escape or a space to share your thoughts. Our thoughts are with you all.

Thank you all - its the speed it has progressed. New Years Eve, they came to our house and had a lovely night - Mum seemed older but not ill. Now the world has changed. Which I realise is how it goes for many people but it feels very cruel for my Dad and for her.

Sadly, my Mum passed away this morning in the early hours. My Dad and I were privileged to be with her as the hospice allowed us to stay. My Dad is doing well at the moment but it will hit him, Im sure. I feel quite empty.

It was strange - dad and I had fallen asleep around what Im guessing was 2.30am as I looked at my phone around then. At 3.40am I woke and sat up and could hear my Mums breathe had slowed considerably. A nurse came in with a torch and, at that moment, my mum took her last breath. It was almost like she waited for Dad to be asleep to die.

wolf wrote:

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Very sorry to hear, Jon. I hope you can find solace in the memories of the 60 years you had together. Best wishes to your Dad.

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 Thank you Wolf. Hes watched back to back 5 episodes of Poirot tonight (the David Suchet ones) on Netflix with my wife, haha. My wife saw my mum as her Mum and I am personally blessed they got on so well. Im not sure I can face 5 episodes of Poirot every night though!

Jan wrote:

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Ah, so sorry to hear about your mum, Jon. Thinking of you and your family as you grieve and as you help your dad going forwards.
Five episodes of Poirot is some feat! Great programmes though, could be a much worse choice!

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 Thank you Janz Theyre threatening the Repair Shop as tonights binge worthy watch! 

I stayed up too late watching the Apprentice - what utter dross that has become! 

Thinking of you and your family at this sad time.